THANK YOU for the episodes about sex!

I just wanted to say a huge THANK YOU for your recent episodes on the podcast about sex.

Greg's episode about the men's perspective was great and I left feeling like I had new insights about how my husband feels and thinks.

However, your follow-up episode... my goodness. I honestly felt like my heart and soul connected to your words on so many different levels. I felt like bursting out in tears- you get me!!!! You gave my heart words that my brain hadn't come up with yet. I've never heard anyone validate those points.

In our marriage we have struggled, misunderstood, blindly tried to work through, etc. soooo many of the exact same things you brought up (maybe even every single point you brought up). We both came into our marriage completely uneducated. Sex was not discussed in either of our homes growing up and you know how taboo and mistaught it can be at the church level (which I feel is not their duty ultimately and most leaders just have no idea how to give those lessons. Yet I wish the overall approach could be majorly reworked. Many words that you brought up I do find myself triggered by simply the fact that they were taught to me in a completely confusing and damaging way. It's been so many years and I still haven't learned how to sort through them or how to form my own solid opinions about them, especially when they contradict what I was taught at church).

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that episode was absolutely fantastic for me and totally helped me understand and realize parts of myself that I didn't before.

One of my favorite "ah ha" moments was when you were talking about having so many tabs open in your brain that need closed in order to prepare to be in a state of mind to even think about sex in the first place. That has totally been a reoccurring frustration for us too! My husband gets frustrated with me because I want to talk about all the (what he thinks are trivial) things that came up during the day when he's trying to initiate sex. He's always saying "This is the absolute worst time to talk about xyz right now! I am not going there." and I have thought "he's kind of right, why do I want to talk about xyz right now? But I'm just totally not in the mood to have sex and this is the first time in our day we've had to be able to talk!" Now I understand that my mind is trying to close out all the tabs BEFORE it can open the new sex tab and I never have understood that about myself before now, thank you!